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A word of caution to those considering opening up a monogamous relationship I met my best friend Kyla almost a decade ago and, at the time, she was the only polyamorous person I had ever met. I was five years into a struggling, fairly one-sided relationship and I had a […]
As with any subculture that exists in opposition to the mainstream, polyamory is rife with gatekeepers and purists who insist there is only One Right Way to be poly. Read a book on non-monogamy or hang around enough poly Facebook groups and you will see the term “compersion” a lot. […]
In May of this year my long-term girlfriend broke up with me. And while that chapter of my life was particularly devastating, this is about what came next: a seemingly never-ending flurry of first dates, dudes who weren’t “looking for anything serious right now,” some long-term, mutually satisfying Friends with […]
Look. I am not very good at dating, period. I am awkward, and not always in a cute or endearing way. I make real actual lists of questions to ask people that I really actually pull out of my purse while on dates with them. And I will not, under […]
primary at night we sleep with our backs turned but our limbs intertwined like sea otters i don’t want you to float too far away from me you know the music that makes you feel like you’re sixteen again? falling madly in love with everyone who smiles at […]
So, at this point y’all know I identify as polyamorous. This means, for me, that I am capable of being in love with more than one person at a time, and I am also capable of being in multiple romantic relationships at once. That doesn’t necessarily mean that I always […]
I have asked for some version of non-monogamy in every relationship I’ve ever had. In two out of three instances, I was looking for a chance to date other people because I was deeply unhappy with the relationship I was in, but too afraid to end things and risk being […]
my first second love i asked you what it was like to be in love with two people at the same time you said ‘it’s like growing a second pair of lungs’ it’s ironic because sometimes there’s so much goodness in this i feel like i might suffocate femme […]
A version of this post was previously published on Riots Not Diets in 2015. If you had told me that leading up to my wedding I would find myself deeply in love with more than one person, I would probably have laughed at you. It’s not that I ever thought […]
It’s not licorice candy, that’s for sure! (Because let’s be real here, an actual Good & Plenty is kind of disgusting.) So now that I’ve successfully alienated the 12% of people in the world who like black licorice… welcome, y’all! The Good and Plenty is a new blog-like project from […]