big body, bigger heart
Last week news broke that a judge called a 17-year-old sexual assault victim “overweight” and said she was likely “flattered” by the attention that her 49-year-old abuser inflicted on her. An official complaint filed against the judge states that he said that although she was fat, she had a “pretty […]
Look. I am not very good at dating, period. I am awkward, and not always in a cute or endearing way. I make real actual lists of questions to ask people that I really actually pull out of my purse while on dates with them. And I will not, under […]
My latinx hides behind blue eyes, light hair, and peach-colored skin. It’s obscured by my Scandinavian last name, a tongue that can’t roll its Rs, and a mouth that only knows English. I am what is called white-passing. Yes, there are white Latinx people in the world, but my whiteness […]
primary at night we sleep with our backs turned but our limbs intertwined like sea otters i don’t want you to float too far away from me you know the music that makes you feel like you’re sixteen again? falling madly in love with everyone who smiles at […]
So, at this point y’all know I identify as polyamorous. This means, for me, that I am capable of being in love with more than one person at a time, and I am also capable of being in multiple romantic relationships at once. That doesn’t necessarily mean that I always […]
I was a nervous wreck the first time my internet boyfriend picked me up from the airport. We met in late June and were deeply, madly in love by August 3rd (I checked my diary just to be sure). We made plans for me to spend the week with them […]
I have asked for some version of non-monogamy in every relationship I’ve ever had. In two out of three instances, I was looking for a chance to date other people because I was deeply unhappy with the relationship I was in, but too afraid to end things and risk being […]
my first second love i asked you what it was like to be in love with two people at the same time you said ‘it’s like growing a second pair of lungs’ it’s ironic because sometimes there’s so much goodness in this i feel like i might suffocate femme […]
A version of this post was previously published on Riots Not Diets in 2015. If you had told me that leading up to my wedding I would find myself deeply in love with more than one person, I would probably have laughed at you. It’s not that I ever thought […]
Back when I was a capital-F Fat Activist Blogger, the number one question I’d get from my readers was “how can I learn to love myself like you do?” The answer, of course, is that there is no foolproof guide to self acceptance and love, but there are certainly things […]